Hi, I’m wondering if you can give me some advice on a problem I’m having. I was with this girl a year and a half and I let her in. In fact not trying to sound crude but I was her first, that’s how close we got. Well it seemed to me everything was going fine. We had small arguments but nothing major. Then one day from out of the blue she calls me and says to stay away from her. I called a month ago today and she said she didnt love me or even care about me at all. Through out the day I constantly think about her. Do you have any advice on how I can end my suffering?
Thanks,
Joe
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Oh Joe, you poor schmoe, you. People, and perhaps women in particular, often feel a sense of duty to their “first”, and feel that they “ought” to stay with them long past the time that the thrill has worn off. In fact, often long past the time that they have actually moved on, if not physically, at least emotionally.
She’s obviously moved on, and while she done you wrong, and did it in a rude and tactless way, it is what it is.
Repeat that.
It is what it is.
And you do what you gotta do.
So here’s how to end your suffering: get over it. You will never, ever, be with her again. She’s moved on, and so must you.
Go out, start doing things you enjoy. Reconnect with your friends, whom you have undoubtedly blown off while going out with, and now pining for, this girl.
Get on with it. It’s your life. You can either be the driver, or a passenger.